A few people have asked about our birth plan and so I thought it would be fun to put together a little Q & A on here! Now I should mention that I am well aware a birth plan is just that... a plan and not necessarily how the birth will go but it is also good to be prepared and to walk in with an idea of how I would like things to go in various situations. And if nothing else it is an awesome way to think about our up coming birth and the many different layers and pieces that could potentially be involved.
I am curious to see how this birth will be different and actually kind of nervous to give birth again BUT so looking forward to finally holding our baby girl and seeing her for the first time.
My delivery is planned as: Vaginal (assuming everything goes well)
I’d like...my partner to be …present before AND/OR during labor. (Last time we had a doula too but I couldn't find one in time for this birth)
During labor, I’d like: To walk around as much as possible, listen to music, be left alone and not checked frequently, have the freedom to wear my own clothes and move freely. I struggle to stay grounded and centered during labor and want the freedom to really focus within and move with contractions vs. being distracted by people in and out during labor.
I’d like to spend the first stage of labor: up and wandering.. walking has always been a coping mechanism for me and I spent most of my labor with Jessamyn up and walking. We tried to stay home as long as possible last time and I plan on doing the same this time too.
I'm not interested in: An IV or pain meds... unless I need them. I like to move around during labor and find an IV to be restrictive and didn't plan on using pain meds at all with Jessamyn but ended up getting an epidural after getting stuck at 7cm for hours so am not ruling it out this time either.
I’d like fetal monitoring to be: intermittent and by fetal doppler. I spend a lot of time moving in labor with Jessamyn and unless this baby is in destress want to be monitored intermittently so that I can move and focus on contractions.
I’d like labor augmentation: sparingly. I had my membranes stripped at 40 weeks with Jessamyn and gave birth the next day so I am definitely not opposed to that but otherwise believe that less intervention is best and want to labor as naturally as possible. I really believe our bodies know what they are doing and want to give my body the best chance possible to do its own thing and birth this baby!
For pain relief, I’d like to use: My own coping mechanisms and pain meds as a last resort. I don't believe in suffering during labor and if it gets to that point definitely think pain meds are a good and worthwhile option. I also though think that labor progresses best naturally and want to give my body the best chance possible to do its job!
As the baby is delivered, I would like to: Be directed how to push. and wait until I feel the urge to push. I only pushed with Jessamyn for 30 minutes and the directed pushing really helped with that!
Immediately after delivery, I would like: My husband to cut the cord and to be handed the baby right away. I also would like to see the placenta... I always find it fascinating to look at the babies first home and see how the cord was inserted and what it looks like... call me crazy but it is pretty cool!
I would like to hold baby: Immediately.,, I mean after all that hard work I want a chance to hold her as soon as possible and for as long as possible.
I would like to breastfeed: As soon as possible. Jessamyn and I never quite figured breast feeding out so I would really like to try as soon as possible this time around.
I’d like baby to stay in my room: Always... unless medically necessary to go somewhere else.
Okay so that is the basics of our birth plan! It isn't terribly complicated and doesn't have a lot of details but I feel like labor and birth go best when you really give in to the process and embrace it as it comes. Jessamyn's birth didn't go as planned but looking back I really tried to embrace the process and still think it was a beautiful birth, I would like to look back on this birth the same way. What were (or are) some must haves on your birth plan? The beauty of birth is we all experience it differently and yet it can be beautiful in so many unique ways.